Another follow-up...

I did finally hear from "A". After about 60-some hours in. Just shy of 3 days.

Our conversation wasn't pretty.

I'm going to be immature and post a link to her page on POF. Mainly because I can.

It may very well be a douchey maneuver, but I think she deserves it. And I'll elaborate in a bit.

Feel free to berate her mercilessly, because she really needs to get some things straight in her head.

Here's her profile page.

"A's" Profile.

She messaged me on POF, of all places, despite having my phone number, e-mail, and MSN. And Seemed kind of puzzled as to why communication stopped. As I said in my previous post, I took this time to test her a bit, to see if she would come to me instead of me always having to chase her. I also elaborated on a few other things.

Here's the list:

#1 - The lack of reciprocation. She never paid for anything while out with me. Didn't even offer. Didn't even reach for her purse. I don't mind spoiling, And I don't expect said reciprocation to necessarily be monetary. I certainly didn't expect her to sleep with me. I also had to constantly initiate everything. Always moving past the 50/50 mark...into the 80/20, 90/10 area. She was not quite like this in terms of conversation in-person, she engaged there, but only there.

#2 - There was also the illogic of claiming to be unready for anything serious. But having a profile on a dating site, as well as dating several men besides myself seems antithetical to that statement. And then there's the night she made out with me, in my bed, in her underwear. I sort of got the impression from there on in, that we were heading into seriousness. Not so, according to her. Had she said anything, or done anything other than gasp in pleasure, I would've stopped, and taken the hint.

#3 - Entitlement. In retrospect, I got the sense that after being in an unappreciative, 12-year, relationship that she felt entitled to be chased-after and spoiled by multiple men.

In our first date, I recall her making mention of wanting a "paramour" which was, by her definition, having a romantic partner who spends time with you in a relationship-esque fashion, but there's no sex involved. I just ran a search for the definition of paramour, and that's not the definition(s) I found. I think if any woman out there, including "A", thinks she can get into a pseudo-relationship with a man like that...she's obviously living in a different world than..erm..everyone. The only way I can see it even remotely happening is if the man is gay. Because sex is ALWAYS where relationships eventually go with heterosexual men and women. Perhaps it might work with a lesbian and a heterosexual man, as well.

Anyhoo...

#4 - My issue with her dating multiple men. The issue is not what you might think. I actually suspect that out of all the guys she was dating, I was probably the only one sharp enough to suss out that she wasn't only seeing me.

The flipside is that she could very well have hinted at it to all of us, continuing her fascination with having men chase her. It's all speculation now, but it does fit the pattern. This particular issue ties in with my dislike of her dating philosophy/illogic in #1.

If you date a handful of people, set them up in a kind of competition with each other, and expect none of them to become emotionally invested...you've got to be seriously retarded. I'll be honest, I fell for her like a ton of bricks. Even if I was the only one to do so, that's 30% if she's dating 5 guys. Higher if it's less than 5.

But the worst of it is the fact that she was so vehemently opposed to anything serious, while putting out the signals pointing otherwise. So here we are...a group of guys, all competing with each other for the heart of a girl. The problem is the girl's heart isn't available. It's like running a marathon, but instead of a gold medal, international fame, and big bucks for endorsements...the prize is getting horribly gang-raped by a group of 350 lb. bikers.

Which is obviously no prize at all. At least for most people.

I wasn't quite as long-winded, graphic, or meandery in what I posted to her. But I got those points across, and expressed hope for a rebuttal, and further discussion. Not to mention hope that she would consider improving.

I was summarily blocked.

The truth hurts, I guess.

In any case, fuck "A" in her stupid ass.